Dear MX24, I need your advice.
I am 29, male and live in Sunyani. I recently got married to the love of my life, just two months ago. Usually everything should be fine within the first months but over here, it is upside down.
My wife has become my chief tormentor in the last few weeks and I don’t think I can do this marriage thing anymore. She has given me an ultimatum that I think I can’t fulfil and it has to do with sex.
I am sure she will see this but I don’t feel ashamed asking for your advice on this issue. After we got married my wife has been denying me sex but it’s not what you think. I’ve been willing to explore every part of her body since before we got married but we are both virgins so we disciplined ourselves to wait till we were officially a couple before we did it. So ask me why after the wedding I take off her clothes and get into position only to have her push me away?
I thought there was something wrong so I asked and she said something that shocked me; she wanted me to penetrate her from the back before she allows vaginal sex. I’m sorry if this is graphic but I can’t use any other words. I thought she was kidding around so tried to continue but she shouted and said she would report me for rape.
It’s like a dream to me. I can’t believe that’s the first thing she wants me to do. I am a Christian and I now sodomy is a sin but at the same time I know that in marriage her body is mine and my body is for her. But do we have to go that far to explore ourselves in terms of sex? Especially considering that we’ve not even done it before?
I don’t know what to do. I know there are some people who engage in these kinds of acts but I’m not mentally prepared to go through this with my wife considering my beliefs. Or am I just being too “chrife”?
Please, this is my broken pen and I need the best advice from your readers on how to go about it. I am scared that if I don’t do it, someone will do it for me and I’m not willing to lose my marriage over something like this. What do I do?
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