Dear MX24,
So last week I realized my girlfriend Selina sent out a story to you. I’ve read it, and honestly, I feel like I need to tell my side too because she left out a lot of details.
My name is Daniel, I’m 32 years old, and yes I’ve been with Selina for almost four years now. We’ve been serious, and I’ve told her many times that marriage is in the picture. But if I’m being honest, the relationship hasn’t been as perfect as she makes it sound.
Selina is a good woman, but sometimes I feel like she doesn’t really see me. She’s always so focused on her work, her friends, and her own routines that I end up feeling like I’m not a priority. That’s where Sandra comes in. Sandra has been my best friend since university, and she just gets me in a way Selina sometimes doesn’t. She checks in, she listens, and she’s been there long before Selina.
Now, about those chats Selina went through. Were they playful? Yes. Did I joke with Sandra? Of course. But what Selina failed to say is that those messages were nothing compared to the distance I’ve been feeling from her. I don’t think it’s fair for her to paint me as some villain when she hasn’t really asked herself why I find it easier to open up to someone else.
What really hurt me is the way she snooped through my phone. That broke my trust. Instead of talking to me directly, she went behind my back, and now she’s acting like the victim. How am I supposed to feel safe in a relationship where my privacy isn’t respected?
Do I love Selina? Yes, I do. Do I still want to marry her? I’ve said it before and I mean it. But right now, I’m confused. Should I be with someone who doesn’t trust me, who makes me feel accused for every female friend I have? Or should I just cut off Sandra, even though she’s never wronged me, just to keep the peace?
I feel like Selina wants me to choose, but why should I lose a friend just to prove I’m faithful? Isn’t trust supposed to go both ways?
So readers, tell me am I wrong for holding on to my friendship? Should I end it with Sandra just to keep Selina happy, or should I walk away from a relationship that makes me feel like I’m always on trial?
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