Dear MX24,
I’m 31 years old and I’ve been dating my boyfriend for six years. For most of that time, we’ve been planning a future together(marriage, children, everything).
Three years ago, he travelled abroad for work. It wasn’t easy, but we agreed to do long distance because the opportunity was too good to pass and we believed it would help us build a better life together.
Since he left, I’ve been the one holding things down here. I check on his family, attend important events on his behalf, and support his younger siblings whenever they need help. Everyone in his family even calls me their “in-law.”
Recently, he came back to Ghana for a short visit. I was excited because I thought maybe this time we would finally make things official.
Instead, he sat me down and told me something that has left me confused.
He said while living abroad, he entered into a “paper marriage” with another woman so he could secure his residency faster. According to him, it’s not a real relationship but just an arrangement.
Paper marriage?? How??
He says he still loves me and plans to divorce her once his documents are settled, then come back and marry me properly.
But here’s the part that is disturbing me.
The woman he married abroad is now pregnant.
He insists the pregnancy was a “mistake” and that it doesn’t change his plans for us. He says once everything is sorted, he will still return to build a life with me in Ghana.
My family is furious and says I should walk away immediately. But his family keeps telling me to be patient because I’ve already “waited this long.”
Now I feel stuck between love and self-respect.
Do I continue waiting for a man who is now legally married and expecting a child with someone else?
Or do I finally walk away after six years and start over?
Dear readers, what would you do if you were in my position?
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