Hello MX24 my pen is really broken and I am very confused, I am in a dilemma please help me out.
Way back in university, Legon, I met this guy when I was 20 the guy was also 20 we dated from first year till NSS and my guy left me to China for his masters.
Honestly everything was fine, he gave me a lot of money, care and attention, he even asked to talk to my mum so he spoke to my mum for my mum to know he’s the one I’m with.
Fast forward, it was my birthday and he told me that he wanted to give me a phone but then he is not having money so he will bring me the iPhone 13 promax he’s currently using and later on he buys a new phone and I was like okay that’s fine. Happily, I received the phone and because he has used the phone already, he had some documents at files and noted so I decided to go through one day.
I realise that at notes, he has his instagram password and Snapchat password there so I decided to log into his accounts since he’s already have my password as well, I logged into his snapchat account and I realise he was dating 6 girls on Snapchat and 3 girls on IG and 4 of them seem serious, he showed care and love and give them gifts exactly like how he treats me. In fact I really cried and got broken, I asked him and he apologized and told me they’re all his friends. Ladies and gentlemen, I believed it and we moved on smoothly, but I noticed that his behaviour has changed, I will call him and he will tell me he is busy, I will text him and he will reply me the next day and tell me he didn’t see my texts, he also stopped giving me money, everything about me annoys him… this continues for almost 3 months.
I was broken hearted. I lost a lot of weight because I was always thinking about him, I got sick and was admitted at the hospital for 1 week, surprisingly, my guy never called. I called him and it turned into a fight and he told me he’s tired and wants a break up, I started crying on the phone and he said he was just joking.
At this point, I knew there’s broken heart on the way coming, hmm..the crying was too much, so I decided to make friends because I was an introvert and I had no friends. I met this guy at my work place (let’s call him Fred), we became close and I told him all the difficulties I am going through in my relationship and he promised to be by my side.
I used to visit him and he used to visit me, one day I went to his place and Fred started pressing my boobs, mind you (I WAS A VIRGIN) the feeling was so nice that I didn’t tell him to stop but I was very shy. He started stripping me naked, he tried penetrating, it was so painful, blood oozed out and I stood up angrily and left.
He begged for days and we became close again and we’ve been having sex for weeks, I feel so bad, but whenever I call my boyfriend in China he says I like disturbing a lot which pushes me to Fred. Now, Fred said he’s in love with me and he’s pressuring me to see his family and ignore the China guy because he’s (Fred) very serious about me.
The China guy has also started calling me after his bad behavior for 3 months, I asked him the main reason why he ignored me and he said he thought my body was too nice to be a virgin so he felt I was lying to him, so I asked why is he now back? And he said he feel I’m a good lady hmmm but sadly, he still thinks I’m a virgin.
What makes the thing worse is that my mum likes this China guy a lot. Aside, Fred is not an Ashanti and my mum is very ethnocentric, she won’t like Fred.
What should I do?
Should I accept the China guy again? What if he breaks my heart again? What if he finds out I’m no more a virgin?
Or should I move on with Fred? What if he also does the worst?
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